The pot calling the kettle black
You may (or may not) recall a number of posts in which I harp on and on about my in-laws. Well, it's really been too long since I've mentioned them.
A recap: SIL&BIL#1 had a son in december, SIL&BIL#2 are expecting their first in a couple of months. SIL&BIL#3 announced they were going to start trying at the same time when we quietly started TTC. I worried they might be in our boat, but they just changed their minds it seems.
I feel it's time to inform the in-laws about our involuntary childlessness, DH still doesn't really want to, but agreed I could drop a hint if the topic arose.
Last weekend, SIL&BIL#3 came over for a visit. They didn't ask THE QUESTION, thankfully, but the topic was skirted. When DH popped out for a few minutes, I seized my chance and told them we were not childfree but childless. They weren't surprised. SIL#3 got a first inkling after our phone conversation last October. I assume the pinched look on my face when we first visited SIL#1 in the maternity ward told her the rest.
Before I could do any more explaining, DH came back, so we moved on to another topic. Am I being sneaky by going behind his back or being considerate of his feelings? I prefer to think the latter. Now of course, I didn't catch much in the way of a reaction from my SIL, but that will sort itself out over time.
The next big step is telling MIL&FIL, though I'm a little less sure of that one. How will they react? Will they harass us for details? Will they harass the lucky siblings to shut up about their kids when we're present? I wouldn't put it past her.
MIL has a lot of time on her hands and tends to dramatize things. At a family dinner way back in november, she asked me whether I disliked being with them because I was so quiet. BIL#1 - of all people - told her that was an awful thing to ask, after we had left. The same BIL of THE QUESTION and the sales pitch. But I digress.
One month later, when we were at the maternity ward with Nephew#1, she cornered me to say she was sorry, but couldn't leave it at that, she kept asking me all sorts of questions. It was really bad timing. At first I was just bewildered, what on earth was she talking about? I told her I had forgotten all about that comment, no need to apologize, etc.
Now, six months later, she still can't let it rest. She's given SIL#3 an earful and has talked about it at length with my mother (they're acquainted, but not more).
MIL = drama queen? Just a little? You see why I'm uneasy, don't you?
On the other hand, now it seems I'm blowing things out of proportion, hence the title of this post. It will all resolve itself over time I suppose (not the IF naturally, the rest).