Saturday, October 06, 2007

36w6d: setting the date

In brief: Insider doing good, we have a date for the C-section, still
debating names!

Last Thursday we had another check-up at the ob/gyn. The Insider now
weighs an estimated 2.3 kg (= 5 lbs?), (up from 2 kg at the previous
visit). The doctor is confident that we'll make it to at least 2.5 kg
(=5.5 lbs?) at time of birth. Babies lighter than 2.5 stay in the
special care unit, babies heavier can stay in the mother's room
(barring other health issues).

The u/s showed the baby is still in breech. Not a surprise to me,
because I clearly feel the position of the head and the feet. In
theory, the doctor could have attempted a manual version, but she
wasn't keen and nor was I. The anterior placenta lowers the chances of
it working and increases the risks involved. Also, the baby being on
the light side makes the doctor want to be more cautious.

In stead we moved straight on to setting a date for a C-section:
October 18th. We've decided not to tell family and friends the exact
date, so I feel a bit guilty about spilling the beans to the whole
internet. Then again, that's what I've been doing here since I started
blogging, so why stop now.
The reason we're not telling is to avoid being harassed with phone
calls on the big day (or the maternity ward being harassed) and
because I might not be in the mood for visitors right after surgery.
I'm sure there are some relatives who would show up regardless of how
I felt, out of sheer enthusiasm.

I've resigned myself to the C-section, though it's not exactly what I
was hoping for. I'm sure there's a lobby group out there advocating
vaginal deliveries for breech babies, but I'm not up for it. The risk
is undeniably higher of something going wrong, and I'm not prepared to
take it. C-sections bring their own set of risks with them, but I
trust my doctor when she's says it's the route to go.

Meanwhile, we're still debating about names. We settled on a girl's
name months ago without any trouble, but can't find a boy's name we
both like. We don't want a common name, not common to our region
anyway, but don't want to be too extravagant either.



At 07 October, 2007 00:01, Blogger DinosaurD said...

Hey Lut
I'm glad that things are still going well for you.
We didn't tell anyone our date for the C-section either and it was wonderful being able to phone my parents with the news after the fact.
Will you ever let us know the name once you decide?

At 07 October, 2007 00:14, Blogger Sparkle said...

You're doing the right thing - being 9 days overdue was a nightmare in terms of 'check up' phone calls from every one!

I also didn't tell many people we were going in to be induced - just wanted to focus on myself in the end - and did not want to hear other peoples horror stories.

Good luck - also the scans are notorious for under-estimating weight - ours was way off.

At 07 October, 2007 01:29, Blogger The Dunn Family said...

You are doing great! I'm glad the date is almost here. I know you are not super happy about the c-section, but really, after the first 2 days, it's all good. I had twins, and I was walking up and down the steps taking care of them as soon as we got home! You'll do great!

At 07 October, 2007 01:31, Anonymous luolin said...

I definitely wasn't up for socializing the day after my late-night c-section (though I didn't mind my mother being there). Planned vs. unplanned might make a difference--I think I had to have more iv fluids after because I didn't have much beforehand.

Post- c-section also turned out not to be the best time to discuss names, either.

Good luck with everything!

At 07 October, 2007 01:43, Anonymous orodemniades said...

Under 5.5lbs is a case for NICU? Dude, I was all of 5lbs 3oz...

They can frequently be up to a lb off, too, the drs, so I'm pulling for at least 6lbs. Besides, you've almost a month to go!

At 07 October, 2007 02:22, Anonymous Anonymous said...

So happy that all is going well. I have to tell you that the recovery from my c-section wasn't bad AT ALL! Sure, I was sore, but I am sure it was about the same as those who had vaginal deliveries. I was disappointed that I didn't have a vaginal birth, but the reality was, I wanted a take home baby. I didn't care how she came out!

I've got you marked on the calendar!


At 07 October, 2007 02:23, Blogger Ladybug Ann said...

You're so close. Good luck!!!

At 07 October, 2007 02:58, Blogger Heather said...

Heather/Heath are always good names...I'm just sayin.

At 07 October, 2007 04:19, Anonymous statia said...

We were the same way with the Mini. We had a shortish list of names for him, but nothing that we were both really over the moon about. Everyone pestered us. They thought we were holding out, but either way, we wouldn't have told. And when he was born, it just kind of happened. With no fanfare.

And I can't believe the controversy anymore on c-sections. You're doing what's best for you.

At 07 October, 2007 09:49, Blogger Sara said...

I'm so glad to hear that the insider is growing well. Whew! That's a relief.

I think you're doing the right thing, both in scheduling a c-section rather than attempting a vag delivery, and in not telling everyone the date.

Good luck with the names, it's hard to decide, isn't it?

The big day is so soon. You must be so excited!

At 07 October, 2007 12:53, Anonymous Nina said...

Wow, October 18th. That's 11 days. I too think you are doing the right thing. I know I will be disappointed if my doctors recommend me to do a c-section, but in the end it is yours and the babys health that is the MOST IMPORTANT thing. Wise decision also not to tell anybody about the exact date. Smart. Must remember to do the same in case we are scheduled for a c-section. Can't believe that yo are having your baby in 11 days. I still see you in front of me when you were small. Can't believe it's time already :-). You don't have to have decided on the name right away. We have friends who took 3 weeks after their daughter was born to decide. Sometimes you are so fixated on a certain name that you are shocked when the baby comes out that he/she doesn't seem to fit the name you chose. I hope you tell us the name though once the baby has arrived and has gotten his/her name?

At 07 October, 2007 16:08, Blogger Aurelia said...

Congrats on making it this far! And don't worry, I'm betting the insider is bigger than they think.

Take care, and we'll be checking back.

At 07 October, 2007 18:48, Blogger Bea said...

That sounds like great news. And not long to go now!


At 08 October, 2007 02:15, Blogger Bumble said...

Yowzers girl! You have a date, how exciting!!! It really feels like its gone so fast. So excited to meet the Insider! Hope you get some rest in the next few days. DAYS! :-)

At 08 October, 2007 13:43, Anonymous Kath said...

Dear Lut, I'm just catching up now. I'm so glad the Insider seems to be growing better now -- and I hope, too, that he/she will be well over 2.5 kg when October 18 rolls around.

That's so soon!! And good job not telling friends and family your date -- it's so much more relaxing when you have a bit of bonding time alone!

At 08 October, 2007 15:53, Anonymous shazz said...

Not long now chickee. So can't wait to meet this little person.

At 08 October, 2007 21:48, Blogger Thalia said...

The c-section is clearly just the best answer for you both right now. I'll tell you the 2 things I wish I'd known:

1. The start of the c-section I found v stressful- odd not being able to feel your legs etc., and I was convinced my legs were still in the last position I'd felt them in, and wanted to straighten them. I got pretty stressed by the feeling of people poking around in my abdomen, even though it didn't hurt. But then the baby came out and it was all fine.

2. If you have a c-section it may take longer to get your milk supply in. No shit sherlock, but all the medics I spoke to before hand swore blind this wasn't true. Then afterwards they all agreed it often happens that way.

Thinking of you.

At 09 October, 2007 03:42, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, the c-section might not be ideal, but if it gets the Insider here safe, it will be all worth it.

I can't believe how soon it is!

At 10 October, 2007 19:31, Blogger Helen said...

We found out the night before our C-section was probably happening, and we didn't tell anyone either. It's nice to feel that there's still something to share, as a couple.

Good luck - it goes very fast, you'll be in and out of there!

At 12 October, 2007 07:59, Blogger soralis said...

I wish no one knew about our section the last time. Enjoy the remainder of you PG. Take care and good luck

At 15 October, 2007 20:56, Blogger The Town Criers said...

Wow--this Thursday! Sending many good wishes for the c-section and recovery.

At 15 October, 2007 21:50, Blogger Angie said...

I just wanted to wish you the best, and hope all goes well.

At 16 October, 2007 03:16, Blogger ak1908 said...

Oh my!!! Only two days to go!!! Congrats and I pray that all goes well with the c-section. I can't wait to hear your birth story.

At 16 October, 2007 23:45, Blogger Bronwyn said...

I can't believe it's already time! Sending you positive thoughts for a very safe delivery. So excited for you!!!!

(Btw -- We were totally the opposite regarding names -- plenty of options for boys, but could not agree on a girl name. Hopefully if you have a daughter her very presence will inspire you with a name...)

At 17 October, 2007 16:04, Anonymous A.M.S. said...

One more day!! How exciting!

I'll be thinking about you all day. I wish you, DH, and the insider the best!


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