Have you considered ...
DinoD asked whether I would consider trying with donated embryos
(thanks for that question by the way, I had almost forgotten about
that option). So would I? Yes and no.
The law here* dictates that embryo donation has to be absolutely
anonymous (I double checked). Personally, I'm strongly
in favor of a measure of openness. At least, I would want my child to
be able to find out something about it's biological parentage at 18
(or younger even).
Besides that, I doubt we would even be allowed on the waiting list. I
assume donated embryos are reserved for those couples who can't make
their own. Likewise, I presume that having a bio child rules us out.
Even if the law doesn't say so, the clinics' own rules might. I can't
find this info online, oddly.
What about abroad?
When I heard about the 'snowflake programs' in the U.S., I toyed with
the idea. A holiday with an extra special souvenir, wouldn't that be
Thing is, I heard about it in the context of - how to put this - the
ideological tug-of-war about ART. Think the 'every-sperm-is-sacred'
sketch by Monty Python, only without the slightest humorous
I can't see us getting through the screening of any religiously
inspired program. What can I say, non-practicing is rather the norm
here. I suppose there are secular donation programs too, but I would
have to investigate.
Very briefly, I researched possibilities for embryo donation in
Europe. In a number of countries embryo donation is banned outright,
in others the law allows anonymous donation, and in one or two the law
allows open** embryo adoption.
Interesting to know, however, I noticed lots of talk of very long
waiting lists on the local forums there ... and of trips abroad. In
some countries, clinics advertise embryo donation - no waiting list -
from professional (anonymous) donors! Tempting, I admit. No prices
listed online though.
Didn't the Genius bank have a embryo bank spinoff? No, too bad.
* Not specified where, for the sake of anonymity.
**'Open' meaning that the child has a right of access to information
about his biological parents at 18.